The Great Gender War in 2025
422: Sex, Power & the End of Modern Dating
Happy Friday.
Figured I would throw out some good spice before the weekend.
Last two weeks have been non stop crypto and markets discussion — and we will get back to that early next week since were getting a slight pullback (I am buying), but I wanted to dive a bit into culture and society to cap off the week.
Given the increasingly viral discussions online of the state of dating and sex in the United States, gender roles, and feminism/masculinity I figured it was as good a time as any to give an update/my thoughts on the major drivers.
There’s been a WIDE range of examples just in the last month — some depressing, and some entertaining, that illustrate where all of this stands. Screenshots of insane date correspondence, the collapse of BMBL 0.00%↑ , a new app called TEA, and countless other examples show us the state of gender relations in the West right now.
The vast majority of my 300,000+ followers online are men and so if you’re a woman reading this forgive me if it slants towards a male audience but hopefully there’s some value here for you as well.
I am generally conservative in my gender views (shocker). I am the main breadwinner in my marriage but my wife still works part time, primarily because she gets fulfillment out of her work (which is nurturing/feminine in nature).
I am biased and believe this setup or one in which the woman doesn’t necessarily need to work is optimal. Call it dated or whatever you want but I am also not ignorant to the financial reality of the modern world that very much makes it difficult for women to exist without holding a full time job. Part of that is undoubtedly by design, as is the war on men.
Again — that is my opinion.
A major piece of the tension and conflict we see between the sexes these days is the result of fourth wave feminism in the West and the overt intentional war on masculinity.
By the mid-2010s, third-wave feminism began to evolve into the fourth wave, which centers more explicitly on:
Social media activism
#MeToo movement
Online harassment
Broader systemic critiques of patriarchy and capitalism
Or in plain speak — marxist social movements designed to fragment traditional systems, break up the nuclear family, and create an us vs. them attitude between the sexes.
The major (and probably the #1) driver of these shifting political attitudes is the assault on traditional masculine roles, the family, and the rise of what I call daddy governments/institutions.
Government and corporations have replaced men as providers—offering financial security, social protection, and even emotional validation—particularly to women, reducing dependence on traditional male roles in the family and society.
It’s ironic too — down with the patriarchy, I would rather serve and give my allegiance to a man at work (my boss) or in government (politicians) than to my own husband or boyfriend.
Within that you have the entire “HR” corporate pocket — which is essentially just a way to discriminate and keep men (generally white straight men) in check.
Media, HR policies, DEI programs, and social media platforms now often cater to emotional safety, identity validation, and empowerment messaging tailored toward women and minorities.
Amplifying this phenomenon across classes you also have:
Social programs like food stamps, housing assistance, child tax credits, and single-mother benefits that often directly support women and children
This safety net that can, in some cases, disincentivize marriage or long-term partnerships with lower-income men—because the government becomes a more stable and predictable provider
And so what we’re left with is a generation of disoriented men and women trying to date, build families, and find meaning in a landscape that’s been fundamentally rewired.
Men are told their instincts are toxic. Women are told they need no one. And yet both are now lonelier than ever. Birth rates are collapsing, marriage is in retreat, and a growing portion of both sexes are disengaging entirely—from relationships, from intimacy, from even the hope of traditional partnership.
This isn’t just a dating crisis—it’s a civilizational one.
And while some will laugh at that or brush it off as exaggerated, I don’t think it’s overstating the issue. What happens when the bedrock of society—stable families, clear roles, mutual respect between the sexes—starts to erode?
You get what we’re seeing now: TikTok therapists, viral screenshots of deranged dating app exchanges, podcasts where men and women openly mock each other, and a culture increasingly defined by mistrust, resentment, and performative empowerment.
Today we’re covering:
The dating & sex crisis in the West
Politics and it’s role in gender relations
The war on traditional gender roles
The larger consequences of the war on masculinity & femininity
Let’s get it